One of the questions I'm most often asked has to do with the C word. No, not that C word (ha!) Competition. People always want to know how I deal with competition and comparison in the fashion industry and blogger world. Heck, in Los Angeles period. My answer is this: competition is everywhere, overly competitive people will always be there, and it’s how you handle these situations that truly matters. You know the quote: 'Life is 10% about what happens and 90% about how you deal with what happens? Like that.
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I’m talking to each and every one of you, whether you are a blogger or a reader of blogs (or not)- we're all faced with competition and comparison every day as we scroll through our IG feeds, Twitter feeds, etc.
When I think about a life of comparison (especially in my world of Fashion and blogging, etc) it gives me anxiety. Who wants to live every day constantly comparing themselves to others? I most certainly do not. If I were to sit and constantly compare myself to other bloggers I admire all day, there's absolutely no way I could do what I do on a daily basis. I would crumble! Anyone would. And people are crumbling around us every day, my friends. This goes for people in all careers and walks of life, quite frankly. Sure, I've been guilty of it at times - we all are. But why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we compare ourselves to perfect strangers, friends, or acquaintances? We're all human. We're all real people. And I promise you the girl behind that Carrera marble countertop, perfectly styled with her of the moment YSL bag, 3 Cartier Love Bracelets and 5 star breakfast (made from scratch, duh) deals with the same insecurities, same issues, same struggles as you and me. In fact, I know she does. Because I'm sure at some time or another I have been that girl to someone in some way.
I guess what I'm trying to say is this- here’s how I deal: remember when you're scrolling through the many perfect feeds out there that we're all human. Do not compare yourself to your friends, acquaintances and most definitely do not compare yourself to the influencers you follow on social media. In my opinion, if we'd all just be a little more real in the process it would do a whole lot of good. But we're in the era of vanity, so it's best to train ourselves to admire, be inspired and (of course) like those photos remembering there is a human behind it who probably hasn't washed her hair in 3 days and is still in her pjs.
Just do you! Because you're great, your setup is great, your life is great and you can do anything good (Jessica's DailyAffirmations reference - if you haven't watched this you need to right this second).