#RealTalk: Competition & Comparison

September 22, 2015



One of the questions I'm most often asked has to do with the C word. No, not that C word (ha!) Competition. People always want to know how I deal with competition and comparison in the fashion industry and blogger world. Heck, in Los Angeles period. My answer is this: competition is everywhere, overly competitive people will always be there, and it’s how you handle these situations that truly matters. You know the quote: 'Life is 10% about what happens and 90% about how you deal with what happens? Like that.

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I’m talking to each and every one of you, whether you are a blogger or a reader of blogs (or not)- we're all faced with competition and comparison every day as we scroll through our IG feeds, Twitter feeds, etc.

When I think about a life of comparison (especially in my world of Fashion and blogging, etc) it gives me anxiety. Who wants to live every day constantly comparing themselves to others? I most certainly do not. If I were to sit and constantly compare myself to other bloggers I admire all day, there's absolutely no way I could do what I do on a daily basis. I would crumble! Anyone would. And people are crumbling around us every day, my friends. This goes for people in all careers and walks of life, quite frankly. Sure, I've been guilty of it at times - we all are. But why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we compare ourselves to perfect strangers, friends, or acquaintances? We're all human. We're all real people. And I promise you the girl behind that Carrera marble countertop, perfectly styled with her of the moment YSL bag, 3 Cartier Love Bracelets and 5 star breakfast (made from scratch, duh) deals with the same insecurities, same issues, same struggles as you and me. In fact, I know she does. Because I'm sure at some time or another I have been that girl to someone in some way.

I guess what I'm trying to say is this- here’s how I deal: remember when you're scrolling through the many perfect feeds out there that we're all human. Do not compare yourself to your friends, acquaintances and most definitely do not compare yourself to the influencers you follow on social media.  In my opinion, if we'd all just be a little more real in the process it would do a whole lot of good. But we're in the era of vanity, so it's best to train ourselves to admire, be inspired and (of course) like those photos remembering there is a human behind it who probably hasn't washed her hair in 3 days and is still in her pjs. 

Just do you! Because you're great, your setup is great, your life is great and you can do anything good (Jessica's DailyAffirmations reference - if you haven't watched this you need to right this second).


25 comments:

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    1. there's absolutely no way I could do what I do on a daily basis. Rachel

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  2. Great advice. It's really easy to get caught up in the competition and then start feeling like you aren't worthy or as talented as someone else, but I always think that authenticity is what matters the most

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    1. Thank you! I couldn't agree more with your statement. Authenticity is key! Staying true to yourself and just doing you basically. God Bless! xx

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  3. What a great post. Unfortunately, I am all too guilty of this. But working on it every day. Thank you for sharing.
    xox Taylor | www.mycupofchic.com

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    1. Thank you, Taylor. I'm guilty, too! I think taking steps in the right direction every day is exactly where you need to be. Just know you're not alone in it and like the wise Miley Cyrus once said, "nobody's perfect!"

      xx

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  4. I love this post and the fact that you posted it! I know we've all fallen victim to the C word, and that was actually part of why I stopped blogging for a while. I'm back in it now and it's great to see that someone as big as you is so grounded and sharing such a positive message!
    Everyone should start their day like Jessica! Hahah

    http://www.pattikao.com

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    1. Patti, this is exactly why I wanted to write about the topic! So many of us deal with it on a daily basis and it shouldn't be that way. We all need to be a bit nicer to ourselves (myself included!) I'm glad you decided to come back to the blogging world, too. Nothing should get in the way of true passion! Messages like this make my heart happy and I really appreciate you reading my blog!
      xx, Devon

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  5. thanks for sharing & keeping it real! :)
    casualonthecoast.com

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    1. You are more than welcome! :) Thanks for reading.
      xx

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  6. Love this Devon:) Its so true!!! Cute little girl:)

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    1. Thank you! Isn't she the cutest? I'm shocked that several people have not seen it!

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  7. Such a great post, it's always a good reminder as well! Thanks for being genuine! :)

    www.vanessasrunway.com

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    1. Thank you so much for reading! I really appreciate comments like this. I try my best to be real and just hope others relate. It's nice to see that you do! xx

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  8. Sometimes you just have to step back and remind yourself not to get caught up in it all! Great post!

    C's Collection | http://chelseascollection.com

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    1. Thanks, Chelsea! Yep, you have to just cut your own self off sometimes and remember to believe in yourself. We're always more capable than we give ourselves credit for! lol

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  9. Such a timely post! Definitely needed this Rachel. Thanks for sharing : )

    Best,

    Candace
    www.liveloveandread.com

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    1. I'm so glad it came at the perfect time! This is what I wanted to hear. Makes my day! Thanks for reading. :)

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  10. As a fellow fashion blogger, I really needed this today. Thank you!

    Xo Ally

    www.allysoninwonderland.com

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    1. So glad I could help! Thanks for reading. :)

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  11. Really interesting post! Thanks for sharing!

    http://misspippisstyle.blogspot.hu/

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    1. So glad you enjoyed. Thanks for reading!

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  12. REALLY loved this post. And you have no idea how SPOT ON that Carrera marble countertop comment was. If I ever meet you would love to share the story;)

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    1. Haha! Thank you so much, Jennifer! I would love that! It's so spot on just for soooo many instances! Roses really smell like boo-ooo-oooooo

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  13. Interesting post!
    http://andreacarmona.com/

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